So, you are getting ready to talk to a guy and you are standing there like a total boss right? Wrong. You are probably nervous as a cat.
Your heart is starting to beat faster and your face is blushing. Then you start talking and you realize that you sound really awkward. Meanwhile, the guy is starting to look like he is ready to get out of this situation. Sound familiar?
Today, I'm going to help you out and teach you a ton of ways on how to not be nervous around a guy ever again. (Hint, tip #10 is a complete life-changer....)
Enjoy!
#1 Be In Your Own Element
If you go on a date with a guy and you go over to his house, his favorite restaurant, hang out with his best friends and listen to the music he likes, of course you are going to be nervous.
Instead of doing the above, bring him into your world.
Go to a place where you are already comfortable and wear your favorite clothes. Clothes that make you feel confident. If other people are going to be around there, they should be your friends, not his.
See the guy in your comfort zone. Literally. Find a place that you are totally relaxed in and then meet him there.
The reason why this works so well is that if you are in an atmosphere that you are already familiar with and that you like, you are going to be way more comfortable and the likelihood of you being awkward gets reduced.
#2 Concentrate On A Specific Image
This is a concentration technique you can use when talking to guys or in any situation that makes you nervous really.
How this works is that you visualize a very specific image in your head, a picture of your cat for example. What does it look like? What is its texture like? What color is it?
The point I'm getting at is to pick a thing and then focus your mind on it. It's no secret that the human brain isn't very good at focusing on multiple things at the same time.
So, if you are really focused on a specific thing like your cat which I mentioned above, it's going to be really hard to simultaneously focus on the fact that you are nervous and blushing.
This works like magic. The guy will think you are the epitome of confidence when in reality, you just have some tricks up your sleeve.
#3 Before You Talk To A Guy Decide You Aren't Going To Pursue Him
Alright, if you are somewhere and you see a guy you want to talk to but you are understandably nervous, decide ahead of time that you aren't going to pursue him no matter what.
In your mind, you are going to make the decision that you are only going to talk to this guy here and now, and never after. You aren't trying to seduce him, you aren't trying to get his number or anything like that. You are just going to talk to him.
See, now there is no pressure on your shoulders. Whether the guy gets completely obsessed with you or completely hates you is irrelevant since you have already made the decision in your head that this is only going to be a one-time thing.
You see, this guy is just a practice tool that you will never see again.
Now, obviously you aren't going to be doing this with every guy but it is a really good technique to practice so that you are ready when it comes time to talk to the guys you really care about.
#4 Comedy
This is simple. Laughing has been proven to make you less nervous and lighten you up.
Before going on a date or talking to a guy, watch something funny that makes you laugh.
Try to relax yourself with something funny before meeting a guy.
This can be anything from a funny tv-show or some pictures.
By lightening the mood you make yourself calmer and this will dramatically help you when talking to a guy.
#5 Visualization
Visualization isn't the same as the concentration tip I mentioned above.
What you will do is before you talk to a guy, visualize everything you will do in your head. Now, by this, I don't mean visualizing how the guy will react but instead visualizing your own actions.
This is hands down one of the most effective techniques you can take advantage of so here are some things you can visualize:
- How you will walk up to him.
- What you will wear and how you will look.
- How you will be standing or sitting.
- What your smile will look like.
- What you will say and talk about.
Also, try to visualize the emotions you are going to be feeling with the guy like happiness or laughter.
By visualizing, the focus is on you. The goal isn't to start overthinking how the guy will react to everything but instead picture what you will be doing.
#6 Don't Try To Fight Your Nerves
Now, if you are already with him and you start feeling nervous and you start blushing, don't try to fight it. Just let it happen.
Starting to have these thoughts in your brain like: "oh my god I'm getting nervous oh no I need to stop this" will just make you even more nervous.
You don't even have to believe me. Just see for yourself. Next time you start getting nervous and thinking: "oh no my heart is beating so fast I need to stop this", watch how your heart rate just continues to rise.
Instead of fighting your nerves, let them come! By fighting them you just make yourself more nervous.
So, if you are talking to a guy and you start feeling nervous, just let it happen! Concentrate on where in the body you are feeling the nervousness and then just watch how it eventually passes.
You can also combine the visualization I mentioned above with this tip. Visualize your heart beating faster before talking to a guy and then when it happens, just let it happen.
I mean, you have already visualized this happening so now, you can just wait for it to go away instead of thinking "oh my god here we go".
#7 Have A Positive Attitude
This is so important yet so overlooked.
Just have a positive attitude!
If you have already defeated yourself in your mind before you even talk to a guy by thinking he will never like you for example, it will inevitably show through your body language and make you look more insecure. So, before you talk to a guy, think positively.
Put it this way, if James Bond is talking to a girl and the girl completely rejects him, does he care? NO! This is the exact mentality you want to adopt as a female.
If you go up to your crush and you think your entire happiness and life quality is dependent on him liking you, then, of course you are going to be nervous!
#8 Get More Experience With Interesting Guys
Simple right?
If all you are doing is going out with basic guys who talk about basic topics, you are going to have to work hard in keeping the conversation alive.
On the other hand, if you go out with a more interesting guy he is going to bring up cool topics to talk about and asking you questions that you two can have fun discussing.
By doing this, you are going to be thinking less about getting him attracted to you and more about having fun with him and seeing how things go from there.
If you want to get experience with hot guys, read my article on how to text guys in a way that makes them attracted to you.
#9 Treat It As A Learning Experience
If you are out with a guy, stop thinking about impressing him and telling the funniest jokes to him to make him like you.
Instead, concentrate on what you can learn from the experience. Does he have anything interesting to say? Can I learn from him?
When you are inexperienced with dating, focus on improving your own dating skills through the experience instead of concentrating on "making the guy like you".
Watch his body language and see if he makes good eye contact. Try to figure out what he is thinking but not as a way to get him attracted to you but instead as a way to improve your own skills of perception.
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Now the last, and probably most important tip of this article for most of you is going to be this one.
I don't think it will come as a huge surprise to many of you but guys actually do not like shy and nervous girls.
When he sees you acting nervous and insecure around him, he instantly gets turned off because psychologically, guys are attracted to girls who are confident.
If you read the tips above and you still feel like you are going to be super nervous the next time you are around a hot guy, I don't blame you.
There are TONS of girls out there who struggle with shyness that not only affects their dating life, but their general well being too.
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Conclusion
So, there they are, my 10 tips on how to not be nervous around a guy.
These are all tips that have worked for both me, and my friends so I'm sure they will work just as effectively for you.
Start trying them out today and then watch the results you get and see which tips you like the best!
Good luck!
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