"Should I get back with my ex-boyfriend" is a question many girls including me have had after a breakup...
And for a very good reason.
Anonymous studies have proven that as many as 90% of women regret letting that "special someone" go at one point or another during their life.
And trust me, as a person who almost let my ex boyfriend go and almost didn't try to get back together with them, that is a regret you do NOT want to have.
My name is Isabella, and today I want to explain to you how you can know whether or not you should get back together with your ex boyfriend.
At the end of this article I'll also tell you exactly HOW to get back together with him if you do decide to try to get him back.
The Cons Of Getting Back Together With Him
Let's start with the cons:
There is a real danger of a second heartbreak happening.
Studies have found that in many cases, even if a couple does get back together there is a very real possibility of a second breakup happening in the near future.
This means that both you, and your ex-boyfriend have to be willing to work through the issues you had in your previous relationship because unless that happens, your heart is just going to get broken again.
It may bring back bad habits.
If a relationship caused you to become a different person and caused you to distance yourself from your friends for example, there is a real possibility that getting back together with him is just going to bring back these old bad habits again.
If you have worked on yourself since your breakup and you've become a better person both mentally and physically, it can be very easy to think that you've "made it", get back together with him and regress back to your old habits.
It may not be the right thing to do.
Plain and simply, if your relationship was abusive either emotionally or physically or anything related, getting back together with them is not wise at all.
There are many real life examples of abusive relationships that never seem to end and if your relationship was abusive in any way, let go of him and don't look back.
The Pros Of Getting Back Together With Him
Things can be better the second time around.
Many people tend to mock women who want to get their ex back and say things like: "An ex is an ex for a reason".
I disagree.
I wholeheartedly believe that you can get back together with him and build a better, stronger and healthier relationship a second time around.
If you've had enough time to reflect on the issues you had in your previous relationship with him, it can be surprisingly easy to fix those issues and build a new and strong relationship.
It is familiar.
The same reason people still wear a shirt they got in high school can apply to getting back together with your ex-boyfriend.
It's comfortable, familiar and even nostalgic.
Unless your relationship ended on really bad terms, the temptation to get back into "familiar land" can be overwhelmingly strong.
You skip the awkwardness.
Unless you want to spend the rest of your life alone, you will eventually have to meet someone and unless that someone is your ex-boyfriend, you will have to go through the whole awkward "getting to know each other" stage again.
This can include frustrating dates, different views on life, and so many more issues that you just may not want to deal with.
When you get back together with your ex, all of this is skipped and you can focus on the things that actually matter like commitment, trust and future plans.
You just feel amazing.
As a girl who has got back together with my boyfriend, I can safely tell you this:
Getting them back is one of the greatest feelings one can have.
Since you are reading this article, I'm assuming that you at least have SOME interest in getting him back and building a new lasting relationship with him...
And if that is the case, I can tell you that it is not going to be a walk in the park, but if you TRULY want it, you'll succeed.