A lot of females I have talked to in my lifetime have had a crush on a guy but because they were in the mindset that the guy was "too good" for them, nothing ever came out of it. Today, I'm going to help you out and tell you exactly how to get a guy that is out of your league.
So, how do you do it? As a guy myself, I can tell you that if you are thinking a guy is out of your league, you've already lost and you're in the totally wrong mindset. That's why the very first thing you need to do is to improve your mindset and realize that he really isn't out of your league.
Let's look into what that actually means and how you can get him to yourself.
The Problem With Your Current Mindset
Now, I'm going to get very real with you here and I want you to not take this personally, but instead learn from this. So, listen up for a minute.
Thinking that a girl is out of your league is completely DEADLY to your chances of attracting him. It's basically the same as thinking you are too ugly to get him or that you don't deserve him.
This shows a TOTAL lack of confidence on your part and makes your chances of actually getting that really hot guy a whopping 0%.
I really want you to understand this. Despite what you see on movies or TV-shows, you are not going to get a guy to like you by constantly showing him how insecure and immature you are.
Seriously. The second you start to categorize guys into leagues like "the guys I can get" and "the guys I can't get" is the second your chances of getting either go down the drain.
You really need to stop thinking a guy is "out of your league". All that you are currently doing is limiting yourself.
This happens because you are telling yourself that you can only go for the "lower tier" guys and that you have no chances of pursuing the guys that you actually want to pursue.
I have gotten tons of messages from girls telling me stuff like: "I like this guy but he is way out of my league I mean he is like an 8/10 and I'm only a 6/10 so how can I talk to him?" Like, seriously?
You mean to tell me that just because you think you are average looking you are only going to go after average looking guys? NO!
I want you to go after whoever you want and I really mean that from the bottom of my heart.
Just because you think you can't get him because he is "out of your league", doesn't mean you actually can't. You can!
How To Stop Categorizing Guys Into Leagues
This whole idea of belonging to "leagues" is bad for your dating life. Like really bad.
Here is how to simplify this whole league thing and simultaneously become more attractive: realize that you are the queen.
If you want to get a guy, you can and that's it. NEVER think again that a guy is out of your league.
Seriously. If you have been reading this blog, there is no way a guy is out of your league. Either you are in the same league, or you are above him.
Get into the mindset where no guy is out of your league. Besides, if you have been reading around this blog, you are already ahead of your competition.
Never settle yourself into something that's less than what you actually want and I mean this literally, not just for guys. If you want that job, go after it! If you want that guy, GO AFTER IT!
Start pursuing what you actually want and if you don't get it the first time, keep trying.
Now, a disclaimer: by the above, I don't mean to keep pursuing the same guy over and over for the next five years if he just isn't into you. I mean keep pursuing the guys you actually want no matter if they are hot, ugly, weird, popular, unpopular or even "out of your league".
Go for what you actually want, never less.
Be Confident
Being confident around guys is like a prophesy that guarantees you success.
If you think you can't get a guy, then that's it. You can't and I really mean this from the bottom of my heart.
You see, if you think the above, you will act nervous around him and you won't believe you are good enough for him. Guy's sense this.
No matter how stupid with girls us guys can sometimes be, if there is one thing we can sense in a girl it's a lack of confidence. As you already hopefully know by now, a lack of confidence is the quickest way to fail with guys.
I mean, how can you convince a guy to like you if you don't even like yourself to begin with?
Believing you are worthy of that hot guy is like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you however actually become confident and forget the leagues as I mentioned above, you are ahead of your competition because they are too busy trying to figure out what league they are in.
Being confident will also boost you up into a higher league anyways if you still want to see things in terms of leagues because confidence is simply is one of the most attractive traits a girl can have.
What isn't attractive however is being negative, putting yourself down, being needy and complaining. If you believe you are in the lower leagues when it comes to guys, you are there. The only reason you are there though is because you have put yourself there.
Now, it's time to pick up your confidence and get out of there. It's all in your mind.
Text Him With The Right Intentions
Many girls don't know this but texting is actually the #1 thing that usually gets between a guy thinking you are smoking hot to him thinking of you as a friend.
How do we fix this?
Well, you start texting him in a way that actually gets him interested in you.
First of all, stop texting him so much...
I'm being serious here.
You should really limit the amount of texts you send to a guy to not appear needy and like you don't really have a life.
Also, when you are actually texting him, remember to be really funny and witty. None of that boring "hey, how are you doing" stuff.
Proper text messaging can attract even the most "out of your league" guy if you know how to do it properly.
To end off, I'm going to drop you a video link down below that I suggest you go watch right now.
It's going to feature a recently filmed video that is going viral in the internet currently.
In it, a dating expert Amy North reveals how you can use text messages to attract any man of your desire.
Sounds amazing right?
Well, that's what I'm saying.
Without further ado, here it is:
Conclusion
So, that's all for today!
I really hope these tips helped you out. Now, the only thing you need to do is to actually put this advice into use.
You see, it really is all down to mindset. If you don't think you can get a guy, most likely you can't and that's why it's so important for you to really understand the advice of this article.
Good luck!