"Is my ex thinking about me"? is near the top of the list when it comes to questions asked after a breakup.

If you are in this situation, you already know that a breakup can be one of the hardest things to get through in life and sometimes people can go completely insane wondering about their past relationship.

Today, in an order to help you keep your mental health in check, I'm going to list some ways you can read your ex's mind and find out whether or not you are in their thoughts.

Okay... okay, there is no way to read their mind obviously but you will get pretty close by following this guide.

Let's begin.

Is My Ex Thinking About Me?

#1 How Long Has It Been

This is the first thing you need to assess. Did you two break up yesterday? Has it already been a year?

If it's already been a super long time since the breakup, the chances of them actually thinking about you are lower, granted still very possible.

After breaking up, it's likely that both parties will be on each other's minds for the first few weeks at least.

The thing is, I'm assuming your ex broke up with you and breaking up is never easy. Your ex was probably planning this for some time and now that they have gotten it off their chest, it's going to take a few weeks for them to start really thinking about you again.

You see, many people seem to think that just because your ex was the one to dump you, they will instantly start living in wonderland after the breakup without a shred of doubt in mind.

This is actually completely wrong and the opposite is true usually.

The dumper goes through the exact same emotions as the dumped after a breakup and sometimes it's even harder on them.

So, just because they might have left you out of the blue doesn't mean they still aren't going through a strong emotional roller coaster like you are.

Also, were you two in an actually serious relationship?

Did you just casually hook up a couple of times?

Assess this honestly and you will be much closer to actually knowing whether or not they are still thinking about you.

#2 Are They Talking To You

Also, pay attention to what they are talking about.

As I have already mentioned in the article linked above, the only acceptable reason for breaking no contact is if your ex straight up tells you that they want to get back together with you or hints at it in a way that can't be mistaken.

If you have started employing no contact and you find your ex trying to contact you, it's not a sign for you to stop your silence. It's just a sign that it's working as intended and your ex is thinking about you.

#3 Social Media

I know not everybody uses social media but these days it's getting so popular I had to include this sign here.

Did they block and unfollow you everywhere on social media?

That might have been the case but usually, it's just temporary and it means they are just acting up.

If they didn't though, pay attention to how they behave there.

Let's take this imaginary situation for example:

You post a new story on your Instagram and your ex is always among the first people to view it.

You check their Facebook page and see that they are sharing links to really emotional love songs.

Their Pinterest is full of deep relationship quotes.

All of this adds up. Your ex can communicate a lot without saying a single word.

Just remember, any attention they are giving you is good!

#4 Asking About You

This is another really strong sign.

If you two were in a committed serious relationship, you most likely have some mutual friends together.

Whether it's through an accident or intentionally, if you find out that your ex has been asking about you, it's a really good sign that they are still very interested in you and the things you are doing.

Now, your ex isn't dumb. They know very well that they are taking a risk by asking about you through mutual friends.

That risk obviously is that you find out about it, but they are still taking that risk.

If they are asking about you, they are thinking about you.

Remember, if they didn't care about you, they wouldn't be bothered asking about you. Simple as that. 

#5 Tracking You

Picture this:

You are at a golf club you and your friends go to every Saturday. Then you see your ex there.

"That's weird", you think to yourself. Maybe they have picked up golf as a new hobby.

Then, the next Friday you go to a party with your friends. Your ex is there too.

Coincidence?

Don't think so.

Then, you start seeing them frequently at the shopping mall you work at.

"Oh I didn't realize you would be here too"... they say.

Yes, they did.

Your ex is desperate to see you. Even little glimpses of you. You are on their mind constantly.

#6 They Got Into a New Relationship But Broke Up

One of the most heartbreaking situations for you is when you still wish to get back together with your ex, but then the worst hits you.

They get into a new relationship.

You start thinking there is absolutely nothing that can save your relationship anymore and that it's all over.

Or is it?

Well, quite frankly, no.

Also, at this point, some time has already passed after your breakup and if you have been focusing on living life to the fullest and improving yourself as you should be during no contact, they most likely won't be holding onto the negative memories of your relationship as deeply.

#7 Asking To See You

You see, you shouldn't necessarily break no contact unless they specifically hint at you really directly that they would like to get back into a relationship with you.

Now, obviously, you need to use your own judgement here and only you know your ex well enough to truly judge what to do here.

#8 Drunk Contact Attempts

It's late at night and you are at home just minding your own business.

Then you get a text from your very obviously drunk ex.

"Are you awake"?

This is one of the most obvious signs your ex could give you.

When people are under the influence, they are far more likely to do things such as this because their self-barrier has been lowered.

When you get drunk calls/texts from them, you can be damn sure that you are in their thoughts and they might even crave you back.