What To Do After No Contact? – EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO DO

When you are completing no contact, the question of "what to do after no contact?" might pop into your head. Today, I'll answer just that.

After no contact, you need to first get into the right mindset and then re-establish contact with your ex the proper way. Once you finally meet up with them, you will re-attract them.

Now, if that seems intimidating, don't worry. I will teach you everything you need to know in this article.

And honestly, if you have made it to the point where you have done no contact successfully, I want to first of all congratulate you.

You have surpassed one of the hardest parts of getting your ex back.

Almost every time people come to me and tell me they have failed in getting their ex back, it's because they did something wrong during no contact.

They started begging for their ex to take them back and made huge mistakes.

So, since you have made it through and are now wondering what to do next...

Let's start breaking this down.

What to Do After No Contact - 6 Things To Do

Get Into A Positive Mindset

Now, before you skip this tip and go straight to the next one let me explain something.

The importance of mindset is huge.

Way bigger than you think.

During no contact, you hopefully became a more positive and happy version of yourself.

Now is not the time to throw all that hard work away.

If you have minimized some of your negative traits during this cool off period, you don't want to give yourself the opportunity to let them sneak back in now.

Keeping a positive mindset will help your post-no contact journey like nothing else.

Remember, you need to display to your ex that you are a changed person. That you are again that person that they previously fell for.

Before you do anything, think positively.

If your ex sees you thriving and blooming with confidence after the breakup, they are going to start wondering why they left you in the first place.

Contact Your Ex The Proper Way

Now, texting is not the only way you can reach out to your ex after no contact but I definitely recommend it the most because texting is light.

You let them think about a proper answer by texting them and texting requires minimal input.

There are some rules though...

Don't text them at a really weird time.

That just simply means to not hit them up with a text at 4 AM in the morning. Early evening is my recommended time to do this.

Constrain Yourself

So, if you did everything properly and your ex did answer to your text, congratulations!

Though I do want to let you in on the fact that this is where most people screw up their chances.

They get overly excited about talking to their ex again so they come off too pushy and start begging them on a date right away.

Please don't do this.

I don't want you to be like most people. I want you to play it cool and actually get your ex back.

So, just chill and when they do text you back wait a little while. 

You don't want to seem like you sit by your phone all day waiting for your ex's answer desperately.

Just take it easy and answer when you feel like it. Maybe that means waiting a couple of hours or if it's late at night when they text back you might even want to wait until next morning.

Next, I'm going to give you some sneaky psychological advice you can use when talking to them.

Drop some questions in your texts that are going to bait them to ask you personal questions back.

You can ask them how their dog has been doing or how their business has grown. Literally anything can work as long as you keep it casual.

When they answer they are probably going to ask you a question of the same nature back, and you have just successfully baited them.

This is your time to shine and tell them how well you have been doing. Doing this properly will skyrocket your ex's interest and they will want to know even more about your current life.

There is one thing you need to remember though...

Don't ask your ex about their current dating status.

You need to show them you don't care whether or not they are seeing anyone at the moment. 

Also, never bring your past relationship up in a situation like this.

Just keep the conversation flowing with positive vibes.

Arrange A Meeting With Your Ex

Depending on how your relationship ended, you have a couple of ways to work this out.

My recommendation is just to ask them to a short meeting for a specific reason.

The best way to do this is just to ask them to grab a quick coffee after work for example.

Whatever you do just pose as a friend here who is just asking them to catch up quickly with no other intentions.

You won't come off too pushy this way and you will break the tension between you and your ex.

This way, they will be much more inclined to hang out with you.

Advice For Meeting Up With Them

I don't want to scare you but this is going to be an important day...

Take a deep breath and just remember some key rules:

The goal here is just to have a great time.

No matter how cheesy that sounds, it's the truth.

You are not there to bring up skeletons from the closet or start a fight with them. Focus on positivity.

It's crucial that your ex is having fun with you.

Also, you don' want to forget about telling them all the great things that are going on in your life right now.

I mean you have hopefully done everything correctly up to this point and you are blooming on both physical and mental levels.

Make sure your ex knows what they are missing out on because they are not with you anymore!

You want them to think about you as a catch again and wonder why they ever broke up with you.

Obviously, you need to keep this subtle since nothing will push them away faster than you being cocky and trying too hard to impress them.

How To Be More Attractive To Them Once You Are Meeting Them

When you are meeting up with your ex you want to be building attraction back by subtly flirting with them.

Building back some of that lost sexual tension between the two of you is one of the greatest things you can do.

Now, this article is not a flirting guide but a guide on what to do after no contact.

I'll give you one rule to follow though:

Think of this first meeting between you and your ex like you are going on your first date.

Just be fun to be around and don't be too pushy and obvious about your intentions. 

Remember to use good eye contact and smile a lot. 

It doesn't hurt to throw some humour in there too.

This alone will make your ex want you back more but there are a few more important tactics to utilize.

Namely, don't be afraid of touching. Touching is key to building sexual tension.

For example, when they make a joke you could playfully hit them to get some touching going on between you two.

You just need to make it seem real and subtle.

Just keep in mind that you are the person who knows your ex the best not me so you need to figure out what works best for them.

There is another huge thing you can do to build attraction during this meeting...

Let them know other people are chasing you.

Now, this doesn't necessarily have to be the case actually but you could, for example, tell them how your work partner is constantly insisting for you to go on a date with them.

Really, the story doesn't matter much. 

The real key is to let them know that you aren't sure if YOU are into the person in your story.

Obviously, this story you are going to tell has to be well-timed. 

You can't just out of the blue start telling your ex how every person in the world is suddenly chasing you down in hopes of making them jealous. It's not going to work.

But if you manage to time this properly and slide it into the conversation smoothly, your ex will start to feel like they really did lose something with the breakup.

After this happens, you can rest assured that they are going to want a coffee date number #2.

Bonus Tip - Case Study

Alright, so there you have it folks.

By utilizing everything taught in this article, you will have a clear plan on how to continue on your journey to get your ex back.