So, you have broken up and you are now figuring out what you should do next...
Perhaps you have already formulated a plan on how you are going to be getting them back...
Then, out of nowhere, you encounter your worst fear.
"My ex is dating someone else"
Your heart sinks.
You start panicking.
The feeling of emptiness hits you. There is nothing in this world that can make you feel better right now.
You are absolutely sure that your chances of getting them back have just been thrashed.
You are wrong.
It's devastating to find out that your ex is dating someone else.
I know all you want to do right now is pick up your phone and text them about how they are making the biggest mistake of their lives by getting together with someone other than you.
Before you start writing that text message though, relax.
Trust me when I say this:
Picking up your phone and writing your ex a poem of a text message is the last thing you want to do right now if you want them back.
Your ex dating someone else right after a breakup is NOT very uncommon AND it's not the worst thing that could have happened.
Just take some deep breaths, try to calm yourself down and listen to some of the advice I'm going to give you below.
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My Ex Is Dating Someone Else Already And It Hurts - What Do I Do?
Now, if there is one thing and one thing only that I want you to remember from this article, it's this:
Don't contact your ex when they are dating someone new after your breakup.
If you do this, you are shooting yourself in the foot in a major way.
Begging your ex to take you back will never work in this situation. They won't take you back out of pity. That stuff only happens in the movies.
Right now, it's the worst time to listen to your emotions. Don't contact your ex!
Let me explain...
When your ex gets into a new relationship a short while after you two broke up, they are in what's called a rebound relationship.
You see, the thing about rebound relationships is that they don't last.
And believe me when I say this, you still have a great chance of getting them back.
Rebound relationships are short-term relationships and nearly all of them end soon after serving their purpose - to help your ex cope with your breakup.
Right now, your ex most likely is already feeling really good about themselves because they were the ones that moved on first after the breakup.
If you now go and reach out to them and pledge them to take you back, they will just see you as someone needy and someone inferior to them and they obviously won't want to date someone like that.
That is why it's so important that you don't reach out to them right now.
Don't put them up on a pedestal and let them view you as someone lower value than you.
If you have already been reading about how to get your ex back, then you already know what you should be doing right now instead.
Yup, it's no contact time.
It's time to form a game plan!
Forming a Game Plan
Your game plan will be simple, yet very effective.
Don't contact them at all.
Yup. That's it.
Okay, there is more to it but that is the core.
I know you are probably thinking that this will never ever work, but trust me, I have seen probably hundreds of situations just like this where people come up to me and tell me: "my ex got into a new relationship. I'm never getting them back huh"?
Then I tell them to apply these steps I'm about to tell you and their ex eventually comes back to them.
Again, if your ex sees you as someone inferior to them because you can't stop contacting them, why would they ever take you back?
This is why it's so important to employ no contact.
We already established the fact that your ex's new relationship has very slim chances of actually lasting.
Rebounds typically end before they hit the 2-month mark.
Even if after two months your ex hasn't broken up, don't panic. It still doesn't mean they have found their new soulmate.
Most rebounds end after a couple of months so just stay focused.
If you use this time wisely on improving yourself and don't contact your ex at all, you will have a really good shot at actually getting them back once they eventually do break up.
If you combine this with some psychological tactics taught in this guide, it's very likely that your ex will actually be the one to contact YOU after their new breakup. once you get to this point, all the power will be in your hands.
So, just to make everything clear:
The moment your ex breaks up is the moment you will have your chances to get them back again.
What Do You Do When Their Rebound Ends?
So, what do you actually do when that happens?
It's simple again.
Nothing at all.
If you have been following all the advice taught in the articles I linked above, your ex will be thinking that you are living your life to the fullest right now and they will be seeing you as a much more attractive person than they did when you two broke up.
When/if they do contact you, it's very important that you don't immediately run back to them if they show you the slightest amount of interest.
I know this will be a very exciting time for you. Your ex is finally out of their rebound and best yet, talking to you but again, relax.
Them showing the slightest bit of interest to you does not mean you should try to run straight back to them.
Don't answer immediately. Wait a little while and answer when you feel like it.
Then once you are talking to them, keep a positive vibe.
Don't talk about anything negative or anything related to your break up. Also, don't show any signs about the fact that you were affected by their quick rebound.
Just try to show them to the best of your ability that you have been doing really well since the breakup.
Doing the above will already take you very far but if you want to get your ex to literally CRAWL back to you once their rebound ends, listen up.
You see, I'm going to drop a video down below that's going to teach you some covert methods you can take advantage of to get them back. If you follow this video to a tee, I guarantee you won't have to worry about how to text them because they will literally be begging you to meet them.
By the end of this video, you will understand how the subtle things you say affect your ex and you will be able to re-attract them in a way that will make them say: "why did I EVER break up with you?"
Warning: this is not for people who don't like things that could be called "sneaky" or even a bit manipulative by some.
The video you are about to watch has the potential to get your ex quite obsessive over you... so use it wisely.
Here's the link:
What If They Don't Contact Me?
What you need to focus on here is whether or not they are actually still dating their rebound.
Again, you don't have to do this immediately. Your ex just probably hasn't fully broken apart from their rebound and gotten over them.
As long as they still keep engaging in their rebound relationship, you will keep engaging with no contact, simple as that.
Try to remove all reminders of them and focus on yourself until they finally break up.
If they have broken up from their rebound but still aren't contacting you, you could reach out to them if you want.
You need to keep this really subtle though. Don't mess this step up.
What I suggest you do is send a text message that has some purpose behind it.
That means you shouldn't just text them out of the blue and tell them how much you still love them.
Instead, for example, you could ask them a light question and then build from there.
Again, if you want real-life text examples that work, check out the video I linked above.
Be fun and positive. Don't act negatively towards your ex when you are talking.
Mistakes To Avoid
#1 Panicking
I know your gut will turn upside down the second you hear about your ex dating someone else. All you will be thinking about is how could they move on so fast?
At the end of your relationship, your ex might also say some mean things to you like "we will never be together again".
As I already mentioned, completely freaking out and acting emotionally is the absolute last thing you want to do when you are finding out that your ex is in a new relationship.
If you start bombarding them with tons of text messages at this point, I can guarantee you that it's only going to push them further into their rebounds arms.
2# Trying To Sway Them Into Leaving Their Rebound
This is the most common reaction people have and also the most destructive.
You absolutely need to learn how to act around your ex if you want to get them back.
Telling your ex how awful their rebound is and trying to convince them to take you back instead will not help you in any way.
The more you are trying to convince them about the negativity of their new relationship, the more they will pursue it since they will just see you as someone desperate.
This is the worst mistake you can make. Be careful.
3# Overthinking Everything
Look, I know it can be overwhelmingly difficult to cope with the fact that your ex is dating someone else.
If you want to have the best chances of getting them back though, you need to stop spending all your time thinking "my ex is dating someone else" and instead spend that time thinking "how do I improve myself to get them back later".
If you pour all your energy into improving yourself, I promise you will thank yourself later.
For example, instead of sitting at the couch watching youtube videos about rebound relationships, you could instead be spending that time with productive things like going to the gym for example.
I can guarantee you that doing things like improving yourself are going to go a long way once your ex eventually breaks up from their rebound.
4# Constantly Keeping An Eye On Them
As I said in the previous step, if you want to have a chance at getting them back, you need to spend your time doing things that are actually going to help you get them back in the long term.
Now, this does not include stalking your ex or their rebound on social media 24/7.
Doing this will just cause you to overthink the situation and you don't want to spend all your thoughts wondering how they are doing in their new relationship.
As I said before, spend this time doing productive things instead of wasting your time.
Stop spending your time doing unproductive things like stalking your ex. This won't help you get them back.
5# Asking Mutual Friends To Talk Sense Into Your Ex
Sadly, this is a very common mistake people make...
Again, this is a very bad idea since it will just make you look desperate and needy.
Asking your friends to go talk to your ex about how their rebound is a bad idea is the same thing as you just going straight up to them yourself and doing the same thing.
Getting your ex back is all about making yourself attractive to your ex again so don't ruin this by desperately asking your friends for help.
Conclusion
There you have it, people.
In summary:
You will let your ex stay in their rebound relationship because rebounds don't last. This whole time you will employ no contact and improve yourself.
You can do things like go to the gym, eat healthier, get some new clothes or a new haircut etc...
Once they break up and see how attractive you once again are, they will start to wonder why they ever even broke up with you in the first place.
Eventually, your ex will wonder why they ever broke up with you.
If you do everything properly and as taught, it's inevitable you two will end up back together eventually.
Good luck!