“ My Ex Is Ignoring Me, What Can I Do”? Actionable Steps For 2023

If you are in a position where you desperately want your ex back, you have probably read online about the proper way to contact them again.

You get all excited and your hands are nearly shacking when you send them a text message after weeks of silence.

Then it hits you like a punch to the jaw:

"My ex is ignoring me"

Are your messages always getting left unread? 

Perhaps you even run into them in person but they act like they don't know you, let alone ever had a serious relationship with you.

If the above describes you, don't worry.

I have some great advice for you below...

Let's start.

My Ex Is Ignoring Me, What Should I Do?

Now, should you be happy that they ignored you?

No, obviously not.

But as you will soon learn, you still have a really really good chance of getting them back, given you do EVERYTHING as I'm about to teach you.

So, just relax. Take a deep breath, don't panic and especially don't send them any texts where you beg them to answer you.

If there is a way you can completely ruin your chances of getting them back right now, it's by bombarding your ex with needy texts begging for them to answer.

Even if they ignore you only once, that's where you stop for now. You shouldn't be reaching out to them multiple times if they have already ignored you.

Hopefully, you are lucky enough to read this article in time and you haven't sent them 20 needy text messages yet.

If you have, it's going to make getting them back harder (still not impossible).

What Does It Mean When My Ex Is Ignoring Me?

Simply put, your ex ignoring you simply because they don't want to talk to you at the moment.

If you don't respect that decision, you are going to give your ex those "psycho ex" vibes and it's going to turn them off really fast.

The whole process of getting back together with them includes changing yourself into a more attractive person and then showcasing this to your ex.

If you haven't done that yet, there is no point to bombard them with text message after text message.

Sometimes, silence will do the work for you. This is one of those times.

How Do I Actually Win Back An Ex Who Is Ignoring Me?

It's better to play it safe here and let your ex (and yourself) get to being emotionally stable again. 

During this time, I recommend going to the gym, eating healthier and just generally improving yourself as a person.

Once you feel confident that enough time has passed, it's time to get in contact with them again.

How Do You Contact Your Ex Here?

We aren't trying to hit on them at this point. We are just trying to get in touch with them again and make them want to talk to you.

They were probably thinking about you in a really negative way after the breakup, especially if you didn't listen to them and kept bombarding them with text message after text message. By building some rapport slowly like this, you are establishing positive thoughts about yourself in your ex's mind.

What If They Don't Respond Again?

If you got ignored again, it means that you need to take some more time off talking to them. 

Wait at least a week more and then try again, this time with a completely different approach.

If you previously didn't employ the advice of the guides I linked above, I HIGHLY suggest that now is the time where you swallow your pride and do so.

I would also recommend doing some real self-reflection here and figuring out if you really have changed enough as a person to be ready to get into a relationship with them again.

After all, your relationship ended due to a loss of attraction and if you haven't done everything in your power to make yourself more desirable again, it's more than likely that you might get ignored again.

What If They Do Respond?

Now, if they do respond to you, you will probably be screaming with joy and happiness. While this is a really good thing for you, you still shouldn't jump the gun just yet.

Don't make the mistake most people make and start immediately calling and texting your ex again like it's your mission on earth.

You don't want to just suddenly forget about everything you learned previously. Remember to stay calm.

Slowly, and I really do mean slowly (you could wait a couple of days before you reach out to them again) start increasing the frequency of communication. 

How To Communicate To Them

Guideline #2 Don't Be So Easily Available

Once you have started talking to them again, you shouldn't instantly respond to all of their texts. 

Just chill and wait a while. Put a delay between your responses so that you don't seem like all you are doing is sitting with your phone by your side eagerly waiting for them to text you.

Answer them when you feel like answering. There are no real timelines here and using your common sense will go a long way. Obviously, you shouldn't just disappear for two weeks.

Guideline #3 Reply With Snappy Texts Instead Of Essays

This goes without saying. Keep your responses short, snappy and light.

Don't bore them by writing long posts rambling on about everything.

Just keep the conversation flowing naturally.

Guideline #4 Try To Display Them The New You

Hopefully, you have used all the time you have been away from your ex usefully, and you have become a more attractive and improved version of yourself.

You have removed those unattractive characteristics from yourself that led to your breakup in the first place.

Now, you need to display this to your ex or how else are they ever going to find out?

You could, for example, tell them a story about how a co-worker of yours is trying to get on a date with you and they are obsessing over you but you are unsure how you feel about them.

Displaying to your ex that other people are wanting you is one of the most powerful tactics you can use to make them jealous about you.

Now, obviously, if you aren't careful here you can mess things up real quick. You can't just simply send them text messages and expect to immediately get back together with them.

You need to have a real plan of attack and send them texts right when they are most likely to take them seriously. Only then they can actually begin to feel that attraction for you.

Summary

So, as a summary:

- Your ex ignoring you is not the end of the world and you still have a chance at getting them back.

- You should wait at least a week, preferably more between your contact attempts so you don't push your ex too hard.

- Read the texting advice above and if you want to take things to the next level, check out the texting guide I linked.