So, you're out somewhere, maybe you're at the mall or perhaps at school. You see an extremely attractive guy there. What do you do?
Well, if you are like most girls, you stand still and do absolutely nothing. I understand you.
You see, everyone wants to know the perfect way to approach a guy. Girls especially are really scared and they want to know the absolute best opening line they can use when approach someone.
Today, in an order to help you out, I'm going to give you a guy's perspective on the perfect plan to approach a guy you like.
Enjoy!
The Problem With Opening Lines And Regular Approaching Techniques
So, if you go on the internet and search for how to approach a guy you like, you are going to find people who will tell you things like "script some openers beforehand". Now, there is a huge issue with this...
You see, the absolute best way to approach a guy is to just approach him!
Now, I will give you some pointers on how you can actually achieve this below but that pretty much sums it up.
If you see an interesting looking person and you want to talk to them, just go up to them and say anything! What you say doesn't matter and I'll prove this to you right now.
Everything can be summed into you just going up to him and talking to him.
Let's run a quick test here. Think about the people you are friends with right now and try to tell me what the very first thing you said to them was. That's right, you can't.
Now, try to think what the very first thing they ever said to you was. Again, you can't. This happens because nobody actually cares how you open a conversation.
I'll tell you a little story that might open your eyes to this whole topic a bit better...
A while back, I was getting into my apartment and I was getting into the elevator and there was this girl there. I was eating a sandwich and this girl asked me what I was eating. We started talking about food and some other stuff and then less than a minute later as we were getting off the elevator, we exchanged numbers so we could meet up later.
So, right now, you are probably sitting there like: "WHAT? I spent 5 hours memorizing these epic opening lines and this girl just walks off the elevator and still gets the guys number?"
Let me fill you in on a little guy secret:
It doesn't matter WHAT you say to a guy to open a conversation. All that matters is HOW you say it and WHO is saying it.
Let's say you are in the same elevator as in the example above. The guy walks in with his sandwich and you deliver the best pick up line that has ever existed. A pick up line written by Afrodite herself, BUT you say it while you are hunching over, not smiling, looking really nervous, stuttering your words and just overall having bad body language. You think that's going to work? NO!
But, let's say you're in the same elevator and you just say something random to the guy but he can tell that you are really positive and confident. You're happy, you're fun to be around and you are an interesting girl. I guarantee this time you are going to get a better response.
It doesn't matter if you have the best opening line in the world. If your body language doesn't signal attractiveness and positivity, the guy won't be responsive.
Now, I hope you are starting to understand that the best way to approach a guy is to get the courage and then just do it! Now, I'll give you some tips on how you can actually achieve this in person.
Try To Sit Next To Him
This is easy but it's also the simplest way to get a conversation going with a guy.
When you position yourself next to a guy, he will inevitably notice you and you will be on his radar. If you are well dressed and look stylish, you will easily grab his attention.
You can do this anywhere really, at a bar, at a coffee shop or even at school. If you are in school this step is even easier to accomplish since you don't even have to say anything to the guy for the first few times you are sitting next to him.
Now, an important tip: if you are in school, don't use sitting next to him as an opportunity to procrastinate in talking to him. Stop waiting for "the perfect moment" because that will never come and then at the end of the semester, you'll be back searching for tips to approach him.
You can and should talk to a guy the very first time you sit next to him.
Make A Comment About Something Happening Around You
This is also an amazing way to strike up a conversation with a guy.
So, when you're sitting next to him or standing next to him or whatever method you used to get close to him, make a comment about something that is happening around you.
Now, back to the point I mentioned at the start of this article. ANYTHING will do. Literally, if anything even remotely interesting happens, just turn to the guy and make a comment about it. The guy won't see you as weird or anything like that. You are just commenting on something that is happening.
You see, if you are close to someone and then something happens, it's completely natural to turn and say something to the person next to you.
Making a comment about something even remotely interesting happening around you is one of the best ways to get a conversation started with a guy.
There is a caveat here though. You have to get close to him for this step to work. You can't just yell: "Mike did you see what happened that was so weird right?" from the other side of the room. So, do your best to get near him.
I know reading this probably makes your palms sweat and it can seem like the biggest challenge in the world to get the courage to talk to a guy or even to sit close to him.
Trust me though, we as guys love if girls approach us. Like literally love.
Society has made up these imaginary rules where the guy is expected to be the one who approaches the girl. If you flip this around, you easily separate yourself from other girls and immediately build some attraction within the guy.
Get A Mutual Friend To Introduce You
This step obviously requires you to be friends with guys/girls who know the person you want to approach. If that happens to be the case though, you are at luck.
You can just ask your friend to introduce you to this guy. That's literally it. You can do this at a bar, at a party, at school, on the street, literally anywhere.
This way, it also won't be awkward at all. Your friend is just introducing you to each other and then you can hit it up and make conversation from there.
If You Can't Sit Next To Him, Just Approach
So, if all else fails and you can't get a mutual friend to introduce you and there is absolutely no way you can sit or get close to him, you are just going to have to get the courage and approach him.
I know... I know. You are probably thinking that there is no way you can do this. I mean, you would literally rather get locked to room with hundreds of spiders than approach the guy you like and start talking to him right?
But, I'll tell you something that might convince you otherwise:
If you do approach a guy, the chance of you succeeding is way and I mean WAY higher than the chance of you failing. Girls almost never approach guys. It's always the other way around so when you do this, you separate yourself from every other girl.
Literally no girl has the courage to just approach a guy. If you do, you are miles ahead of all the other girls and the guy will notice this. Trust me.
I guarantee you that if you just go up to a guy and introduce yourself, the guy is going to think: "Wow, this girl seems extremely confident", and as you know, confidence is insanely attractive to guys.
So, literally, go up to him and say whatever you want to say. It really doesn't matter. If however you absolutely can't think of anything to say, go up to him and say: "excuse me, I honestly just thought you were cute, what's your name?" Then, the conversation will flow naturally.
This method is amazing because you can tell pretty quickly if a guy is interested in you or not. This way, you won't waste any time if he really isn't into you.
Conclusion
So, as long as you are:
- Confident.
- Approaching in a casual way (not jumping him from behind and scaring him).
- Smiling.
You will have great success when approaching the guy you like. I guarantee it. If you follow the steps I outlined in this article and especially if you take advantage of the video I linked above, you will have no trouble in approaching him and making him fall for you.
But now, you need to actually do something about this. Take action and watch how you later look back at this and realize that you stressed for nothing and that there was nothing to worry about when approaching him.
Good luck!